Unselfing Self

"And [Joseph] did not know her till she had brought forth her firstborn Son."

Matthew 1:25 (NKJV)

Famed hymn writer and theologian Frederick Faber is right when he says that holiness is “unselfing” ourselves. To me that explains this text in which Joseph wouldn't touch Mary until God finished delivering Jesus through her.

Shrouded in suspicion around the community, with lives interrupted by divine invasion in human affairs, Joseph had his mind made up to divorce Mary quietly. He thought, “Whatever this thing is that she has going on with God, who am I to interfere?” It seems to me like a selfless and noble plan on Joseph’s part.

Joseph goes to sleep firmly settled in his plan to quietly divorce Mary, and while he sleeps, he discovers how much he himself is an intricate part of God's plan for human redemption. God edits his dreams, telling him not to divorce Mary, but to physically father this human Gift that would bring redemption to an otherwise condemned creation.

Joseph awakens the next morning to immediately obey God's plans. And verse 25 gives us insight into the selflessness he took upon himself in being part of the greater plan. It simply says this: “And [Joseph] did not know her until she brought forth her firstborn son.” That means they had no deep intimate connections spanning the time from conception until after it was safe for her post-delivery.

Here is the point: Joseph bought into the dream. He accepted his role in it and also accepted the fact that part of that role was to live in a strange space where his faithfulness was measured by denying his natural passion. Restraining what was a part of his intense love for his new bride, his response to the invitation to offer God his life in service was stewarded for a season by self-denial.

Today, God is calling you to “unself” yourself as part of His bigger plan to bless the world. When you deny yourself (which can take a thousand different forms at any point in your life), take up your cross, and follow Jesus, you are participating in a master plan that is so much bigger than you imagine.